I am not a resolutions girl. For me, a resolution is something that seems so definite, so firm, so…resolute. As a perfectionist, just thinking about making a resolution and then failing at it makes my eye start twitching.
Instead, I’m more of a “goals” girl. Goals are more forgiving, don’t you think? Like that saying, “Reach for the moon; even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” That’ll work for me. Maybe that means I’m lazy or weak. Meh. I’m okay with that.
All that to say, while I don’t make resolutions at the beginning of the year, I do try to make some personal goals. It gives me something to strive toward and helps to remind me what I want to become or do differently on days that I fall back into the same old routines or attitudes I’m trying to change.
Here are some of my goals for 2016:
- Write more. Over the past several months I have felt a strong urge to write more. After my amazing experience at MomCon in September, I prayed about how God wanted to use me and how I could use my gifts to glorify Him. I felt that He was telling me to focus on my writing. Whether that is through blogging, freelancing or finishing my novel that I started three years ago, I’m not yet sure. But I very much want to find out.
- Become a better photographer. I love photography. It is one of my biggest passions. But since having Hawkins I haven’t had the time or, frankly, the desire to practice or expand my skills. Now that Hawkins is a year old, I want to spend more time honing my craft, getting better at this art that I love so much.
- Focus on my marriage. Nobody really tells you how hard having children can be on a young marriage. My husband and his needs have often been put on the back burner since we’ve had kids. We both know it and talk about it, so at least it’s not something we’re trying to deny. But we also both know that for the sake of our marriage and for our friendship, we need to get back to focusing on each other more often.
- Focus on myself. I’m not going to lie, I need a break. I feel like I have been neck deep in babies and their needs for three years with very little time to myself. And such is life, right? I mean, my kids are still babies, they still need their mommy pretty much all the time. It is a season and it will pass, I know, but I am feeling very over-needed, over-touched, over-everything. As an introvert, the only way I really recharge and refresh is by having time alone. And by time alone, I don’t mean two minutes in the bathroom on a Saturday morning. I mean, I need an ENTIRE DAY, if not two, to just BE. To do whatever I want to do, to not talk to anyone, not be around anyone. This sounds like an impossible dream as a mom, but I know for the sake of my sanity, and for the sake of my family’s sanity, I need to take more time to be by myself whenever I can.
- Focus on myself, part 2. I desperately need to get back into a regular workout routine. As soon as I could go back to the gym after Hawkins was born, I was there like clockwork. At least three time a week, but usually five times a week, I was in the gym every morning. The weight loss was painfully slow, but I felt great. Then shortly before Halloween, Hawkins changed his napping schedule and it was getting more and more difficult for me to get to the gym (he refuses to nap away from home and his skipping naps makes for a nightmare day). Eventually, I just gave up trying and I haven’t been to the gym in a couple of months. And, man, do I feel awful. I can’t wait to get back into a workout routine.
So those are my goals for 2016. It feels like a manageable list and I feel optimistic about meeting these goals this year!
Do you make resolutions or are you more of a goal-maker? What are your goals for this year?